It Doesn’t Make You A Bad Person For Putting Yourself First For Once

Oops guys, I missed yesterday’s post.

I KNEW I would at some point, but I must’ve been in a very highly optimistic state when I committed to daily posts throughout January.

The fact is, that life gets so busy. By the end of the week, I have a dozen pieces of homework and three tests piled up, as well as a zillion other things I need to do – it’s just a fact. Yesterday was in no way different. But it’s okay. Friday’s over. My English exam today was good. And it’s now the week-end, so let’s rejoice in that blissful feeling!

I’m such a bad blogger, and I know I say this a lot, but it is so damn true. So many bloggers spend hours planning their posts, making each one interesting and compelling to the eye, and then taking a day out of their hectic schedule to take photographs to compliment the post – all BEFORE they spend three hours writing the actual words. And for that I am in awe. I look up to you and congratulate you at putting in so much hard work, and it paying off. You deserve it.

I, on the other hand, am not like that. I don’t plan my posts. Well very little. Sometimes I might take a mental note, or tap it into notes. I don’t take photos specifically for a post – if I think something relates I might insert it, but not frequently.

And the worst part. I ACTUALLY start writing without even KNOWING what I’m writing about.

Like, um, now for example. (COUGHS heavily to try and hide that awful fact you just heard).

But yeah it’s true. And yeah, I feel a bit guilty about it. But the fact remains that I don’t care. And I’m not going to change that.

I started blogging as an outlet. A way to explore my creativity, which I do in posts which require more effort. But I also use it as a way to get out what’s in my head, and make me feel calmer. So sometimes I just sit down, and I type. Like now.

This post has no direction. No inclination of where it is heading.

And I actually like that. I know it’s rather boring for you, but I LIKE it. I enjoy it. It HELPS me. And although I absolutely love all of your support, and would not be where I am today without it, I have to keep reminding myself that the reason I do all this blogging thing is for MYSELF. I don’t do it for fame, or for recognition – I’m anonymous. Although this sounds selfish and uncaring, I don’t do it to entertain you – although I do write posts with that aim occasionally.

I do it for myself. As I’m sure you do too.

So I’m going to keep going with my ways, and continue being the world’s worst blogger. If you’re alright with that, then please stick around. I’m happy to have you in my journey!

Going back to the start of the post, I mentioned how busy life gets. Sometimes we all have so many things on our to-do lists. But is ALL of it necessary? Sure, often it might be. But I also find, more frequently than not, that a lot of things on my mental to-do list aren’t actually for the needs of myself. They’re for other people. To satisfy others, rather than me.

Think about it. If you cut back on all the little things which you don’t need to satisfy yourself, how much shorter would your to-do list be? Would anything at all be removed? Quartered? Halved?

I know for certain mine wouldn’t be the length that it is.

And I’m NOT saying you shouldn’t do that thing for your mate. Or that thing to help someone else. That is all very, very important. But what I’m saying, is that you can only do so much before it becomes bad for your health. If you’re so over-weighed with things to do that there’s no moment for you to take a breath, then something has to be done.

And it doesn’t make you a bad person for putting yourself first.

So next time you’re freaking out over how much you have to do, put it in an order. Start with what you NEED to do. Then what you WANT. Message your mate and ask if that thing can be done at the weekend instead. Work out what is actually necessary. And keep some time left over for yourself – to relax, to go on a walk, to clear you head, whatever YOU need to keep yourself sane.

If you’re one of those people with your life organised, and your to-do list at two things long, then I’m sorry for wasting your time with this very meaningless post. But maybe you can help some-one else in the comments.

End of Post.

L0L. My writing always ends up in such a different place to how I’m expecting it to. Not that I had a plan anyway (Trying to stop myself from typing the word I’m sorry) – AGhh.

I’m going to leave you now. Go do something fun. Take a break from your laptop, and go for a walk. Or bake a cake. Draw a picture. ANYTHING.

I hope you have a lovely weekend (WOOPDEDOO IT’S FRIDAY!!!!!). Have you got anything nice planned?

Love, Em x

KIK: @LyfWithEm

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28 thoughts on “It Doesn’t Make You A Bad Person For Putting Yourself First For Once

  1. I find myself falling into the category of ‘planning my posts’. So many hours go into my content and I’m super proud of it, but I have to say, I’M in awe of people like YOU. Posting (nearly) everyday, always with new thoughts, new ideas, new things to share, new ramblings to talk about … that’s something I couldn’t do! So, far from being the world’s worst blogger, I find you to be one of the world’s most enjoyable bloggers 🙂
    Abby |


  2. There was a lot great confirmations in this post. It’s great to know we all are imperfect beings trying to be better then we were yesterday. Yet still sticking to what makes us who we are 🙂


  3. You ALWAYS seem to write things just at the point when I most need to read them. You are AMAZING 🙂 Yes, putting yourself first is so important! I always seem to neglect that, but I’m trying my best. Thank you xx


  4. I really liked the message of this post. It always happens to me to, I sit down planning on writing one thing but when I finish it it turns out to be something unexpected. So mainly I end up not planning anything, I just sit down and let the words take me to a surprise!
    Loved this post ❤️

    P.S. VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION: You are not a bad blogger Em!! You are one of my favorites and I get so exited whenever a post of yours pops up into my reader!

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    1. Haha thank you – there are just so many qualities of my blogging that isn’t up to where I’d like it to be 😂yeah, I actually really enjoy the surprise when you sit down and write! It’s nice to see where your mind takes you 🙂

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  5. YOU ARE NOT A BAD BLOGGER! You don’t need to organise your posts or plan them or spend ages writing them because you hook your readers and engage with them anyway! Spontaneous, unplanned posts are your thing – you don’t need to plan just because other bloggers do. I don’t – I sometimes plan what posts I should write but I don’t heavily go into it. I write when I write and then I usually immediately publish it haha. Also, don’t feel bad for not posting everyday. If I’m honest that’s quite unrealistic because as you said life does get in the way.
    And I agree with this post completely. Sometimes among life I spend so much time helping others because that’s the type of person I am, and then when something happens to me it’s kind of a shock because I never expect it. This year I want to take more time for myself and put myself first sometimes, so I can get to know myself more and figure out what I can do and what I have 🙂

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    1. What a good idea. I hope you manage to do that. Time out for yourself is such an important thing and was also one of my goals for the year…hell I don’t think ive even stuck to it this month let alone all the ones left to come😂thank you xx

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  6. Loved this post! And I still read your posts no matter what because it just works for you as a blogger. I do both planned and unplanned posts depending on how much time I have on that week xx

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  7. This is why I have became hooked to your blog and come back to read it. You don’t display any competition or need to be recognized you just do you and damn it WORKS! You are so right! There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your to-do list to help fit your needs for once, that is actually important and essential for our well-being.
    Glad you feel good about your exam! Have a lovely weekend Em!

    Nikki O.

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  8. You don’t plan your posts, but you’re perfectly capable of hooking your readers & interesting them! ❤️❤️ I enjoy reading your posts & I honestly think you’re an awesome blogger! You interest me, make me laugh, and most importantly you’re being yourself! Great Post Em! 🙂 Thanks for the advice too – it’s so helpful! Umm, actually I don’t have something that nice planned for this weekend *sigh* – I’m going to be studying for the 8 exams I have next week….
    I nominated you for the bloggers recognition award & the versatile award – the post is on my blog 😊

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