What Parents Don’t Understand About Teenagers

Hope you’ve all been having a lovely weekend so far! What have you been up? I’ve been at the stables today, and spent the afternoon lounging around in my pj’s at home (which you’ll know if you follow me on Twitter *wink wink*).

Oh, Em. Stop with the self-promo, and GET ON with the post!

Right. So. As teenagers, sometimes we feel like we are a totally different specimen to the rest of the people in the world around us. Or do we feel like they are a different specimen? Either way, I’m not particularly a TYPICAL teenager. And often, we feel like our parents just don’t get us.

Therefore, this post is based on MY experiences. You may completely disagree with me. You may a be a parent yourself, and understand your kids a hundred percent. BUT, this is all a bit of light-hearted entertainment, so just enjoy the read.

Okay, here we go.

What My Parents Don’t Understand

  1. I am my OWN person – No matter how much you might think you can influence my decisions, and believe what you are suggesting is the BEST thing for me, ultimately, I am my own person. I need to choose what I think is best, and even if it doesn’t turn out as I expected, at least I followed my instincts. Take a step back, and let me make those wrong decisions. I learn from all my mistakes, just like you’ve learned from yours. And even if you’re trying to stop me making the same fail you did, I have to learn it for myself. It’s what helps me grow.
  2. I understand that your life is difficult and that being a parent isn’t easy – You don’t need to tell me these things every day. I know your life is busy, and although I’m not an adult, I’m smarter than I look. I already try my best to help you out, so you don’t need to keep reminding me of how hard your life is. And I’m not telling you that being a parent is easy, either. I don’t care if you get things wrong. You’re trying your best, and that’s all I care about.
  3. Being a teenager now is a whole lot different to when you were growing up – And this means your advice isn’t always fitting. It’s not that I’m deliberately going against you. It’s just that when I say you don’t understand, often that is true. I know this isn’t your fault, but it does get to me that you don’t seem to think it’s any different. Times, standards, daily life – everything has changed. And so has society. Please try and understand that.
  4. Me saying I want to lose weight, isn’t an automatic cause for concern – After Christmas, I weigh more now than I ever have done before. It’s natural for me to be disgusted by the extra flab on my thighs, and want to get rid of it. It doesn’t mean I’m going to take it to extremes. I just want to feel healthier again. So try not to worry whenever the topic gets brought up.
  5. Sometimes I just need to spend a bit of time away from you – Don’t get me wrong, I love you and my siblings to bits, but once in a while, I need a break. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you, and it doesn’t mean I value my friends more than I value you.
  6. I often shut myself in my room. It doesn’t always mean I’m depressed – Sure, sometimes it might. But sometimes I might just be enjoying the company of myself, my laptop, and some music. You don’t need to stress out too much.
  7. My life is hard too – As teenagers, we face struggles on a daily basis. And while you chuckle that I’m in a bad mood, or had a bad day for an unreasonable reason, it hurts. I don’t like it when you compare my ‘easy’ life to yours, because I know being an adult comes with a whole lot more complications and responsibilities. But don’t push aside the fact that my life isn’t all roses and candy. Accept it, and help me.
  8. I worry about you – It might not seem like it when I slam the door in your face, and scream at you down the stairs, but when you go out at night, and aren’t home by the time you say you will be, it would be nice to receive a text to say you’re running late.
  9. The stress of school and exams is different to when you were young – It’s a stated fact that the stress experienced in the teenage years is a lot higher than in your day. School places way more pressure than its ever done before. So please, give me a bit of leeway.
  10. I don’t mean for you to be disappointed – I genuinely don’t go out of my way to make life difficult for you. It just happens…I don’t want you to be disappointed in me, even if you think I’m trying my hardest to make you think that. I make stupid mistakes, and sometimes don’t try as hard as I should, but in the end, all I really want is to make you proud.

So there we have it. 10 things that my parents don’t understand about me. Or perhaps it’s a more generic thing. I don’t know. Let me know if you can relate to any of these, or if it’s just from my experience.

My parents are the most wonderful specimens to have walked this planet. They’re loving, encouraging and devoted. I just had the idea of this post, and I’m sure they wouldn’t be offended if it ever got handed to them.

What do you think your parents don’t understand about you? I’d love to hear in the comments!

I hope you all have a very relaxing weekend. Have you got anything nice planned for tomorrow, or just a day of rest and schoolwork?

Love, Em x

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64 thoughts on “What Parents Don’t Understand About Teenagers

  1. Hey, I’ve enjoyed reading your blog reminds me a bit of how I felt when I was younger! Your relationship with your parents might be different to mine and my Dad’s but i got to about 17 and it suddenly clicked between us when we found like a mutual respect for each other. I would say if you haven’t already definitely vocalise this type of stuff to them. Parents worry and aren’t mind readers like we sometimes kinda assume they are…

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    1. Thank you for your kind words! To be honest, I do have quite a good relationship with them most of the time. But I guess it’s because they aren’t mind readers, like you say, that the other times there’s a bit of conflict. Thank you for your help!❤️

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  2. Ahhhh I relate to this entire post. Especially since I have divorced parents my parents don’t always pay attention to me. Sometimes I feel like they don’t really care. So I guess one thing that my parents don’t understand about me is that I still want their care and support even if all I do is sit at my laptop all day. Even when I tell my mum my problems she basically brushes it off… so I want her to understand that I need her words of advice and encouragement
    I’ve been standing my ground more often for #1 – I’ve been enforcing that I am my own person and I can make my own decisions. I still think my parents don’t exactly understand that though?
    Haha this comment is such a mess. I have so many thoughts surrounding my parents… I still love them but it’s frustrating.

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    1. It’s not a mess, don’t stress. It’s just an attempt to explain your confusing feelings. It must be so hard to have divorced parents, I’m sorry, and feel for you 😦 I’m glad you’re standing up for yourself, and becoming your own person. It’s so important to do that. It’s a shame she brushes off your feelings. She probably just doesn’t realise how important it is to you – maybe chatting to her would help? To explain how you feel? Idk, maybe that wouldn’t be useful…Lol now my comment is a mess, sorry! ❤ xx

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      1. thank you Em. It’s gotten easier over the years because they’ve been divorced for over 11 years now and now that I’m getting older I realise that I’m my own individual person. I’ve tried chatting to my mum – one time I wrote her a letter about my thoughts when her boyfriend and his family moved in and it was 3 pages long and she responded to me in two lines on the phone. I even explicitly said we should talk about this in person. This year I’ll try talk to her more about my feelings but it’s things like that that make me not want to. Your advice is useful xx thank you again!

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  3. Expecially #1! I love this so much. I could relate to all of it. Life is so much more different for when our parents were kids. Its strange how society changed so much. Being a teenager in this day and age is difficult because we are expected of so much by society and it is the time in our lives where we are trying to figure ourselves all out. It is a confusing time! ❤️

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    1. Yeah! Ages ago, teenagers were still treated like little children, and now we’re almost like adults. Society changes so much. I bet when we have children, it will have changed again, and we’ll struggle to relate. It’s a very confusing time!!x

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      1. I found a book that related to this post perfectly. It is called “girls on the edge” by Leonard Sax. It talks about how different life is for teenagers now then it was for our parents and all the reasons why ( including how social media has an effect on us and why so many teenagers suffer from anxiety and depression now compared to back then) I haven’t finished it yet but it is incredibly accurate and a really good book. It is a parenting book but I think more girls should read it themselves so they can learn to help themselves too.
        It’s a good book and it was relevant so I thought that I should share it. I hope you don’t mind! ❤️

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  4. This was a lovely post!! XD Sometimes I wonder if parents kiiiinda understand us more than we think as they were teenagers as well, but times change and I guess generations are different.
    The first few times I would stay for hours enclosed in my room listening to music or talking to myself, my parents thought maybe I was sad, or bored. Now after few years, they’ve gotten used to it. I have a friend who’s parents don’t let her close her bedroom’s door. Don’t know why – but of course she can always go out with her boyfriend and stuff. Like what?
    I also don’t want to disappoint my parents, but when I was 10 and I sucked at math, they would compare me to some of my classmates.
    Parents: What do you mean it was ho ward? Mike got a 9.5!
    Me: Well, it was hard for me. Also, her mum helps him, and you know it.
    Parents: *stare at me with an angry face* That’s no excuse.
    They don’t do that anymore, now every time I tell them others get help from their parents, they agree with me and agree that it’s unfair.
    Again, I loved this post, sorry if this comment was a little long, but I really really enjoyed it!! XD XD

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    1. Aha I don’t mind long comments! It’s nice to hear feedback and get chatting! I do wonder that too sometimes if they get us more than we think…but THEN I think how come they always disagree with what I say and think they know best and argue and stuff? Surely if they got us more they’d leave us be a bit…I don’t even know. To be honest, my parents are pretty amazing – it was hard thinking stuff up for this post! Woops now my reply is reaalllyy long aha sorry!!! xxx

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      1. Ok cool, haha, phew! XD And I don’t mind long comments/answers either so don’t worry! XD
        And yeah, that kinda sticks into my mind every once in a while. And yeah, my parents are also amazing, I can imagine how it was for you to write this post, great job!! XD

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    1. Aha I love reading your comments on all my posts! Thank you so much for reading these daily posts and taking the time to comment! It means so much. And I’m glad I could be a bit relatable 😀 But yes, that one is definitely true. Like obviously, I get my parents life is hard and stressful, but in a different way to mine, and that doesn’t mean mine shouldn’t be discounted, you know?!x

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      1. Absolutely! I think parents think they have it tougher just because they’re parents. (They have NO idea what it’s like to deal with these 21st century struggles! Ha!) it’s my pleasure to read these posts – I’m very much enjoying them 😊❤

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  5. Yeah, pretty much. I hide in my room because there’s so much reading as writing I want to do and if I try to do that downstairs where my parents are, they distract me. :/ Which isn’t their fault, but I need quiet.

    Anyway, I really related to this even though I’m 20 now lol.

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    1. Yeah that’s basically similar for me too! Except my parents think I’m just on my phone or watching stuff online, and they say I should be doing something healthier ugh. Glad you enjoyed the post 🙂

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  6. Em, you have no idea how much I agree and relate to this! I was furiously nodding at everything you’ve said because all of this applies to me and from reading the comments, many other’s too. Sure, I love my parents but at the same time, I can get severely frustrated with them because of how much they don’t understand me. Loved this post SO much 🙂

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  7. I RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH, IT IS UNBELIEVABLE. Especially the first one. I AM my own person. Yes you raised me and are my parents but seriosuly. Let me make mistakes and learn from them just as you did. AndYAS! Age Gaps are the worst. “When we were kids, we didn’t have technology let alone social media”. TIMES HAVE CHANGED. Social media is as common as speaking.

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  8. I totally agree for the losing weight topic, I put on a couple of pounds over the break and I say to my mum this year I am going to lose some weight and she automatically says there will be nothing left on you if you lose weight! Typically parenting ey? Brilliant post, Izzy Xx

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  9. This was post was everything *applauds* I feel like some of these on a daily basis about my parents. It’s just hard to tell them because they won’t fully listen/understand (it’s not that their bad neglecting parents, they aren’t! But our lives are all so busy that it would be difficult to really sit and talk about these things.) Thanks for such an awesome post, Em!

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  10. Great post and I totally agree with everything you have mentioned above. It’s lovely to be able to read a post like this. Hope you are having a nice weekend!! 😊

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    1. Thank you! I really enjoyed writing it, so I’m glad you enjoyed it! I want to check out your blog, but when I click on your URL, it says blankasmycanvas.wordpress.com is no longer available? Just wondering if you could let me know what your URL is, so I can check it out 🙂 I think the wrong URL is connected to your blog, aha I’m not sure – might just be my laptop 🙂 Thank you for following me!xx

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      1. No problem!! 😊 Ah that’s great.
        Oh thanks so much for letting me know!! I don’t know how but I will try fix that!! Blank as my canvas is actually my old blog that I deleted ages ago!! My new one is girlmasked.wordpress.com
        And thank you, I appreciate you wanting to read my blog!! 😊
        And no problem at all!! 😊

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  11. Great & Interesting Post! Very enjoyable to read! I agree with every single point here! I have nothing planned for tomorrow – just studying, studying & more studying! 🙂
    Followed you on Insta (I don’t have twitter) Btw I love your blog! ❤️❤️
    I’m quite new to the blogging worlds, but I already think it’s fantastic! (check out my blog – if you don’t mind) 😊

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    1. Awh no! I hope your studying goes well!! Thank you so much for the encouragement and kind words! The blogosphere IS fantastic! There are so many people to get to know and chat to, who are so inspiring and really influence your daily life! I actually followed you earlier so I have checked out your blog vaguely, and I’m very excited to read your future posts! 🙂 xx

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      1. Thanks for the good luck in studying wishes! It’s my pleasure! I know right! – the number of people you’re able to talk to & communicate with is tremendous! Plus, everyone around here is so welcoming & kind! All in all, the community is greta! Thanks for the follow – I’m also very excited to read your future posts! ❤️❤️

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